We were intrigued by the perspective of escorts as it offers unique insights into men’s behaviour and desires without the need for pretence or love found in dating or relationships. With this in mind, we spoke to Anna, a former Independent London escort, hoping to understand what motivates men to seek their services. During our conversation, Anna shared some enlightening perspectives on men, dating, and sex that provide valuable insight into this often-misunderstood industry.
Q: What is the primary motivation behind men seeking escort services?
A: From my experience, most men who hire escorts are looking for a fantasy, whether sexual or companionship. For many, the appeal lies in escaping from the stresses of their personal and professional lives, even if only briefly. They crave the feeling of being in control, dictating the terms of their interaction with an escort to live out their desires.
Q: Can you explain what you mean by “fantasy”?
A: Men who hire escorts come from all backgrounds, but a common theme is their desire to feel desired and attractive. Many of my clients were married or in committed relationships and were looking to escape from their lives routine and mundane aspects. Being with an escort makes them feel like they are the centre of attention and can escape reality for a little while.
Q: What kind of attire did you wear as an escort?
A: Contrary to popular belief, most men prefer escorts who dress conservatively in office attire or sophisticated, upscale clothing. Men are often intimidated by women who appear to be more sexually experienced and choose escorts who have a “girl next door” look. By dressing in a more detailed understated manner, escorts give men the fantasy of innocence.
Q: Did you gain any insight into why men in committed relationships might seek the services of an escort?
A: Yes, I have. Some men feel entitled and will never be loyal to their partner, while others think they give so much to others that they deserve to indulge in their fantasy. Regardless of the reason, the motivation behind man’s behaviour is often self-centred and driven by their desires.
While working as an escort in London, I was taken aback by the realisation that the escort industry encompassed much more than personal services. Many men sought out escort services primarily because of the connection and companionship they provided. As a former independent London escort, my most requested service was the girlfriend experience, which involved listening, supporting, and guiding my clients through their personal and emotional challenges. This observation highlights that individuals often seek escort services for physical gratification, emotional connection, and intimacy.
